It was the onslaught of AIDS that quieted that voice because you can't speak 6 feet under ground.
In roughly the 90's "The Gay" started to make a comeback with the media playing no small part. Richard Hatch was a contestant on the T.V. reality show "Survivor" and not only was he an openly gay man comfortable in his own skin with showing a lot of skin, he won with beating the heterosexuals at their own game that made the nation take notice. Shows started to pop up (Queer Eye For the Straight Guy, Will and Grace, the cable show "Queer As Folk" (no one remembers that the cable company Showtime had a gay show called "Brothers" in the early 80's that was a first for cable television with the only other television show with a gay character being "Soap" in the 70's). Gays were likable, non-threatening and almost like magical beings who's sassy talk and femmy behavior matched only that of an entertaining black woman who puts it on thick. Gays to most of America were fun and everyone wanted one, they still do *queue the rise of the metrosexual who made it O.K. to be gay without homosexuality* Homos even had a magical touch with everything from selling crap on the QVC channel because a fat housewife in Minnesota will buy a 'slimming' scarf from an "exotic" gay man before buying it from another dull housewife hawking scarves, to runway drag queens people can't seem to get enough of. In other words, straights are dull, gays bring the excitement and maybe safe titillation when you ask us to feel your tits. Now you can't swing a roll of chiffon without hitting a gay character on almost every network and cable show and with beloved gays like Ellen who come into your home everyday and lovable Doogie Houser, gays are losing their "flair" with turning boring wanting families after getting gay married. Gays are not the 'new black' anymore. By the way, a term hated by blacks who always resented gays comparing our struggle to theirs. Let's get this straight, gays were instrumental in the early civil rights movement with the expectation blacks would be there for us when we had our own movement, they weren't. If that wasn't bad enough, they condemned up by throwing rocks at us from their black churches and calling our love a "white man's disease."
Is all of this good or bad? It's neither, it just is. Now all the attention is being directed at the rights of transgenders because gays are old news, out time in the sun is almost over. Even gay bars are closing because we don't need a private space to be left alone in anymore, we're having chicken wings next to you in your sports bar and you don't even care. When the woman who was the voice of "Snow White" in the Disney classic is speaking out for gay marriage and gays are being accepted in churches en masse, it's only a matter of time before we hear the death knell for our gay rent party.